I love to give people the benefit of the doubt. Mostly, because it has meant so much to me when others have extended the same courtesy! It's just really nice when someone believes you, or gives you the chance to prove that you mean what you say, before deciding you're not worth their time.
It's nice when people listen, and wait to decide for themselves. It's nice when people respect that you have different life experiences than them, and there's a chance you know what you're talking about. That you might have information that they are lacking.
But I gotta say, the more I learn about the tech industry, the less I want to extend it to anyone with any money or power. I used to honestly believe that people were just making mistakes because they didn't know any better, hadn't considered the repercussions of things ahead of time, because they didn't have future vision. How could they have known? Not one's at fault for not being able to predict the future.
But I've since learned, that just about every single time, they were warned. They were told, by multiple people, at length, about the consquences of what what they were doing, and they decided to move forward anyway. To break things. They decided they were special and different and better, didn't need to follow safety regulations, or listen to experts explaining to them why what they wanted to do wouldn't work, or would cause problems, or get people hurt.
They knew.
They knew, and they decided they didn't care.
(originally posted to notepin on 12 jun 2025)